The thing we sometimes forget is that no one is perfect. We can’t be perfect. We’re human and fundamentally flawed. It’s part of our charm. The idea that we can and should be perfect in itself is damaging. It’s kind of like the idea that “we can have it all.” It’s unobtainable and goals you can’t ever reach, that are not just – we haven’t figured out how to yet – but really CANNOT obtain are damaging. Especially when paired with the idea that we should obtain it.
With all of this noise coming at you even if you don’t log onto social media, it gets that much harder when you do have social media influencing your thoughts. More and more studies are linking excessive social media use to depression, anxiety, insomnia, self-esteem issues and more. There are ways to deal with this. When approached in the right way, social media is a powerful tool, for both business and social reasons.
Studies have shown that social media users who log on at night have more trouble sleeping. This is probably stemmed from the fear of missing out. You’re wondering if there is a post you missed or a notification you should respond to. The more emotionally invested you are in social media, the more this intensifies. Try not to log on at least an hour before bed time.
Tip 2: Stop oversharing
The more you post or share on social media the more you will feel the need to check and see if someone has Liked, commented or shared your post. The need will be greater to check for notifications. Stop stressing yourself out about what you shared. Even if a post doesn’t get any interaction that you can see, doesn’t mean no one noticed or thought about what you said.
Tip 3: Curb the urge to be snarky
We never like negative or sarcastic comments on our posts, so why do it to others? Don’t create a negative space. If you have a real concern, contact that person directly, don’t share it in a public space. The anxiety we get when were engaged in a negative discussion on social media is stronger. The urge to check the notifications is more intense.
Tip 4: Unfollow people and block sources that upset you
In today’s world, unfriending and blocking people can become a pretty big deal. So, the kind people who build the code for social networking sites have made it so you can simply UNFOLLOW someone but still be connected to them. They’ll never know you don’t see their updates. Sources that post things that upset you, like a news source, can be blocked so that you don’t see things that your friends share or comment on.
You can check your social media sites manually. The more you train yourself to not be looking for notification buzzing or sounds the more you can relax throughout the day. If anything is so important that it can’t wait, tell your friends to actually text or call you. I have my notifications turned off, and everyone knows that if they need me to respond in a timely manner, they shouldn’t do it through Facebook or Twitter. Then I manually log on a few times per day to check my different platforms.
Tip 6: Remind yourself that no one is perfect or always positive
This is the MOST important one. If you can’t manage the others – do this! Remind yourself that what you see shared on social media is just a momentary snapshot of other’s lives. Think about it this way, is what YOU share a realistic look into your life? If someone looked at your timeline or your news feed would they really understand what you’re day was like? The answer is probably no. If it’s not true for you, then it probably isn’t true for others either. Social media is a way to connect, but it isn’t your or anyone’s whole reality.