Now, there is nothing wrong with having different opinions. There isn’t anything wrong with discussing them. The issue is that some people ONLY comment when they want to tell you that you’re wrong. The sad fact is that these people are trolls just as much as the ones that you don’t know, only worse. When you post something on a social forum you would expect your connections to, at the very least, treat you with respect. So, when they don’t, it comes as a shock. Then, when they do this repeatedly, it becomes an attack. People who do this are not developing or maintaining a relationship with you. Instead, they are abusing their access to you. They are worse than the random keyboard warriors out there and you should consider dealing with them instead of ignoring them.
In another article I talk about why It’s Okay to Ignore the Trolls. This still remains true when dealing with random trolls. This situation is different, however. This, again, issomeone you know at some level and it isn’t acceptable that they are treating you this way. If you don’t feel comfortable actually speaking to them about this issue and asking them to refrain there are other options. My choice of preference is to make it so they can’t see any future posts. With Facebook, which is the usual platform this happens on, you simply go into your Privacy Shortcuts and choose Who Can See My Stuff.
It’s nice of these networks to acknowledge that situations like this happen and to help with us deal with them. It’s a sad fact that we even HAVE to deal with these things. Whatever happened to simple respect among friends? When sitting at a keyboard all sense of normal human interaction seems to disappear, even among friends. I’m not really sure where it comes from, maybe it’s partially that we don’t realize how we come across. So, I’m asking everyone who is reading this… if someone takes the time to tell you that you come across as rude, arrogant, condescending etc. you should consider it. Even if it is not your intention to come across that way, you may. Take a deep breath, don’t take it personally and consider not saying whatever it is you have to say.
Remember: Just because it’s in your head, doesn’t mean you need to say it – especially if all you ever have to say are things that can be taken negatively. The world will be a better place for it.